It's Not Just About 90%

Troughout my daughter Ishmita’s 10th-grade journey, there were countless conversations between us—some serious, some emotional. It often felt like a tug of war between two perspectives: hers and mine.

Before I dive deeper, let me share a proud moment. Ishmita once attended an *Achievers' Day* event organized by her classes. When she came back, she said with a spark in her eyes, *“Next year, I want my parents to be on that stage because of me.”* That moment filled both me and my wife with pride. It felt like she had understood the sense of responsibility right at the beginning of this crucial academic year.

But soon, that proud moment started fading. Her performance began to decline, and as parents, we were naturally concerned. Given her capabilities, we had set an ambitious goal—98%, with a hope that she’d at least reach 95%.

Then came the roller-coaster phase. She started showing some improvement in class tests. At the same time, she didn’t let go of her leisure—picnics with friends, birthday parties, web series, and Bollywood movies were all part of her routine.

Eventually, due to mounting schoolwork and test pressure, she began skipping a few classes and even missed some completely. It made us question: *“If she doesn’t maintain discipline now, how will she perform in the prelims or even the boards?”*

We had several counseling sessions at home. I told her, *“I’m not judging you, but based on your 9th-grade performance and current trends, my data analysis says you can’t even cross 90%. Forget 95–98%.”*

She always replied with calm confidence, *“You and your data analysis! But marks aren't everything. I’ll get the marks, don’t worry. What I need more is your time, your understanding, your trust. These moments—talks, laughter, chill time—they’re equally important in helping a student grow.”*

Finally, the results were out. She crossed the 90% mark. That single moment relieved all the peer pressure, and we all had one common thought—*it’s all by the grace of God.*

As memories flashed back, one thing became clear: this journey wasn’t just about chasing a percentage. The real learning—for both parents and children—is that academic success isn’t only about high marks. It also requires:

* Consistent parental counseling (not pressure),

* Quality time spent together, beyond just asking about studies,

* Space for friends, relaxation, and joy,

* And most importantly, the company of positive, encouraging people.